Well, I thought…
when I trust then I should also be trusted…
when I respect then I should also be respected back…
when I expect then I should be expecting what I thought will happen…
when I share then I should also be shared of something…
when I lead then others should follow…
but I was wrong.
Life is so mysterious. You will never know what will really happen next not until when you get there. You have no choice but to accept the opposite of what you desire and then learn from your mistakes. After all both positive and negative experiences help you better understand not other people but your inner self.
‘Trust’ is probably the easiest word you could utter to others but later found to be the most difficult to bear in your heart and mind. It comes with many responsibilities and expectations. I have learned not to utter this word anymore and to become even more cautious when I am told to trust someone. Because when you trusted but you were not trusted back then pain and frustration are the consequences.
‘Respect’ is what all look and hope for. But one needs to earn it and then maintains it. Earning it is a lot easier than maintaining it. I have learned that I need to fight for it if I wish to maintain it. Because when you respect someone but you were not shown with the same courtesy then fight for it. One needs to get emotionally hurt to reflect. A piece of advice: make sure that you were undoubtedly wronged!
‘Expecting’ is a natural desire. Eventually, what you wish to happen might turn out the least you expect or worst it might not happen at all. I expect a lot. And honestly, it’s difficult not to expect when you are hoping that your expectation could solve an immediate problem. I have learned not to expect too much and when my expectations failed me then I need to accept the consequences and find other ways to help me going. By the way, to expect means to be patient.
‘Sharing’ shows generosity. But share what you can only give. Oftentimes we share a lot that we end up asking others to share something for us in return. This is what I find hard coping with. I am learning to leave something for myself…enough that there is no reason to burden others to share something for me.
‘Leading’ comes with many faces. We lead so that others will follow. But this is not always the case. Leading means doing what the followers ought to be doing. I have learned that many leaders failed to do what the followers are good at: accomplishing what they’ve been told to do even carrying out the simplest task.
I think I am right this time…well, at least I thought.
